hey, i'm shae!

(not the butter, so no, not a typo)

Former French teacher turned fairy godmother of healing heartbreak, diagnosing dating dilemmas, and razzle dazzling your relationship and romance ruts

I was obsessed with French in high school. So much so that at 17, I Asked Jeeves about study abroad programs and submitted an application. My parents found out when a program coordinator called and asked about my application. They somehow scrapped together the money for me to go, and I stayed with a host family for the summer in Northern France.

I was undecided in college until it was crunch time to pick a major. I went with a safe choice - Human Resources - but after two days of business classes, I realized that cube life was not for me. On day 3, I switched my major to French and decided I’d become a French teacher. This was an interesting choice because I was honestly such a punk in high school (and my first year teaching was definitely penance for my wayward ways), but I figured I could be the cool, fun teacher who made things fun.

I went on to teach English for a year in the South of France before starting my teaching career in the US. I really went because it was important to me to feel totally fluent in French if I was going to teach it, but it definitely didn’t hurt to be able to get my flirt on with French men in the process. In case you didn’t know, they say pillow talk is a great way to learn a language.

By 30, I thought I had it all figured out. I became a Registered Yoga Teacher, I was in a relationship with a guy I thought I’d marry, and I got a job at a new school that I thought would be a great professional move for me.

 did not have it all figured out. 

The new school was a toxic work environment and I experienced the worst professional crisis of my career. While this was going on, my boyfriend at the time started having doubts, and we broke up a few weeks later.

I had always wanted to live in a place where the air didn’t hurt my face, and with all the aforementioned clusterfuckery, something was telling me that now was the time to make it happen. The day he officially moved out, I texted my sister who had been living in LA and told them I wanted to move there. I made a 15 minute video telling myself why I needed to follow through with it, but I never watched the video. And truthfully, I knew I’d never need to. My gut knew that it was the right place for me and my soul was amped about living in a place that felt like a permanent vacation. Within three months, I said au revoir to education, packed my life into my car, and hauled my little ass across the country. Surfs up, bitches! (JK, I don’t surf)

My coaching business came to life shortly thereafter when I found a business coach who I was confident could support my transition into this exciting new field. I was flooded with tingles thinking about how I could help women understand themselves like I had through diagnosing my dating patterns; I wanted to be a cheerleader and support system for them so they didn’t have to struggle like I did.

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I did a dating detox after hearing  someone speak about it on a podcast.

This was a truly transformational time for me where I was able to develop a sense of inner security I never realized I was missing until that point. When I was ready to fire up the ol’ Hinge account, I went on one date that didn’t lead to romance but it did lead to a platonic friendship and a whole new group of high vibe homies who love concerts as much as I do. 

That brings us here! Riding the Cali wave with my little best friend Lambie (my rescue pup I adopted a few weeks after moving), and a few short months away from completing my Relationship, Love & Sex coaching certification with VITA Coaching Method™. Oh, and did I mention I’m dating the Hinge guy’s cousin now? Yep. He makes me belly laugh on a regular basis, has no idea how handsome he is, and buys me a pint of Ben and Jerry’s every. single. time. I visit him. #blessed

While the last year hasn’t been without its challenges, I haven’t regretted a single moment of overhauling my life to make a new one among the palm trees and the Pacific Ocean.